You know, men ask me about " relationships " and "how to relate to women " and other such topics all the time .

But the actuality of the matter for all of these sort of questions is there is no "dating guru" that can give you any better recommendations than good old "experience".

But naturally the next question is how do you get experience if you don't know how to meet women?

You meet women, approach women, and observe women any way you can for as long as it takes to get comfortable with the topic. Then when you are comfortable you date women, date women, date women. It is called serial dating.

And when I wrote my first book, "How I Got 700 Dates In One Year", some people thought I was nuts.

To start with, let me explain that I am very big on monogamy and have never cheated on a wife or girlfriend, but when I am between relationships I am equally big on multiple or serial dating.

And I am not talking about men and women who multiple or serial date their entire lives. Obviously those people have some major relationship problems.

But, serial dating applied in the right context is not only not dysfunctional, but it is quite the opposite. Serial dating done to get a better awareness of the opposite sex, so you can figure out who you like, and what you like, and what kinds of individuals like you, is about the most mentally healthy thing you can do.

What do you think most parents told their teenage sons and daughters?

They said: "Don't get really serious with one person, you need to date and meet a lot of girls/guys."¯

Now believe it or not, this teenage advice can also be very good advice for adults.

Most of us adults never really followed good old mom and dad's advice. We instead met someone we kind of liked and hooked up with them and ignored the rest.

Sort of like, we got together with the first acceptable person who showed some real interest in us.

Regrettably, there is a big difference between "acceptable¯" and "ideal"¯ and also the fact is that most people usually continue this routine of hooking up with the first "acceptable"¯ person who comes along well into adulthood.

We call this "compromising"¯ or "settling"¯ and ultimately it leads to dissatisfaction in relationships, and a failure to comprehend the opposite sex.

You see there are many different types of people in the world and, believe it or not, there is someone for everyone. But the problem is you may have to meet a heck of a lot of people to find that one someone.

Another problem is that many people are so confused about life and relationships and people, they don't really have any idea of what kind of personality is a good match for them. They base their ideals off of the Hollywood imagery of what they think they want.

The cure is simple. When you date and meet lots of people, sooner or later, you figure it out for yourself. It's a natural process. You get comfortable with people, you realize that everyone is different, and that different types of people like different types of people. Eventually you figure out what kind of person you are and what kind of people you get along with best.

And lo and behold, that is all us "dating gurus" have ever done to meet women and attract women . We have just gone out and got a lot of experience.

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